Misguided Girl

It is often said that a man has a lot of responsibilities in his lifetime. In many societies, especially in Middle Eastern ones, a young boy is groomed at a very early age to be a man and not to show any emotions that may seem a bit too “feminine”. Unfortunately, emotions, positive or negative, are frowned upon and this lack of showing emotion grows with them into the future. The boy is someday going to be the man of the house, taking charge of the household and being the breadwinner of the family. Yes, the life of a man is far from easy. But do we stress too much about how hard it is to be a guy in our society and neglect how difficult it can be to be a girl? A girl’s life is also far from simplistic. Sometimes their life is even planned out from beginning to end, from which schools they will go to, to which man they should marry. Even the most educated girl can have no say about whom she wants to marry unless she speaks out and takes a stand. Families tend to forget that they are not the ones getting married. Marriages end up being a contract of financial security rather than of love. What I’m trying to say is that everyone’s life is somehow misguided by outside influences. Sometimes I think we do not stress enough on the life of a girl and the hardships she goes through on a daily basis.  My point is in our lives everyone, especially girls, are somehow always misguided by influences such as family, friends, and most significantly the media.

Society has transformed and with each day that passes, the media has stood as a platform for our thoughts, actions, and perceptions of what is real. Psychological and emotional disorders are further being catalyzed by the media’s ideas of how a person’s life should be. These ideas penetrate through a person’s mind and slowly shape their actions unconsciously.

TV shows, soap operas, magazines, music, etc., all seem to be harmless forms of entertainment for young girls all over the world. A lot of young girls these days are watching shows such as Gossip Girl, Desperate Housewives, Sex in the City and the list goes on. It is indeed entertaining to spend leisure time watching these television shows, but to relate them to real life is beyond understandable and downright insane. The characters in these shows are highly glamorized and live seemingly perfect lives with the toughest obstacle being which social event to attend or whom they should date. I’m not saying it’s not fun and entertaining to watch such shows, but to watch them and base them on real life is when they become detrimental.

The magazine Cosmopolitan claims to help women be more well rounded and be the best they can be in every aspect of their lives. More specifically, the magazine targets “fun fearless women who want to be the best they can be in every area of their lives.”   Fair enough, but if only it actually sets out to do what it claims.  Is it to empower women or is it for women to further feel objectified?

Lets take a look at just a few of the magazine covers:

Sex, sex and more sex!!

Below is a link to one of the feature videos posted on Cosmo’s website:

http://link.brightcove.com/services/player/bcpid18776372001?bckey=AQ~~,AAAAAPudaAk~,C-Umm5CE0ILqKM5qxB9ysjRHrosKTFAA&bclid=26650873001&bctid=26643699001

Below is a link to the articles Cosmo features:

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/archive/sex-love/tips-moves/0/16

Are these the real issues on girl’s minds? Every issue has something to do with sex! The magazines clearly are advocating and encouraging promiscuity and do not depict sex as something that is special between two people who love each other. How does this educate a girl in the right way? Girls all over the world are reading Cosmo and actually follow and believe what is being said. The writers do not base any of their articles on facts. In some issues they try to help girls feel better in their own skin by giving tips on fashion and what suits their body types the most. Then why when I look through the magazines are there no pictures of real women? Why do they all seem so flawless? If the magazine is geared towards girls who are trying to better themselves then how come all the girls in the magazine are perfect? Are they telling girls that if they read the magazine they will look like the girls in the magazines or that they should live up to these unrealistic, air-brushed expectations?  How is this setting up women to be “fun and fearless?” Well, all it really does is set them up to be sex objects who spend all of their time trying to have perfect skin, hair, and bodies.

The real issues that should be talked about more are the real issues young girls and women are going through such as obstacles about body and self image, eating disorders, unrealistic expectations set for themselves, depression, family problems, inner conflicts and outside pressures. Maybe if we shed more light on these things, young women will be better-balanced and lead healthier lives. These young girls need a reality check and also need to learn that the world is not all about outer appearances, but rather inner beauty, success, family, friends, and above all, personal happiness.

A girl’s life is not simple because she not only has to deal with magazines, and society telling her everyday how the ideal life for her and other girls should be, but at the same time, other outside factors such as family and friends echo and replay through her mind.  It is hard to disappoint oneself but it is also hard to disappoint others. Family is most people’s foundation and what we do reflects on them. We want to lead the right life and do what makes others around us happy. We are after all social beings who crave approval from people close to us and as well as a successful life. But sometimes families who are very close-knit tend to add to the pressures society poses on us. They ultimately want what’s best for us, but forget that we should be the one’s deciding the path of our lives.  We ask ourselves, how do we do what we want without disappointing others? Well, this is not an answer Cosmopolitan can answer, but compromising is always a good method to use.

In conclusion, no one’s life is easy especially because of outside pressures and influences. Sometimes, though, the life of a girl can be more complicated than what meets the eye. Hopefully, young girls and women can be able to break through these obstacles by focusing on what they believe is important in their lives and working from there. Setting a goal, surrounding herself by the right people who love her, and being fearless enough to face real challenges in life is a great beginning. The challenges I’m talking about aren’t the ones Cosmopolitan, Gossip Girl and Sex in the City have the answers to. Slowly but steadily, maybe this misguided girl can find her true path onto self-discovery.

The Bigger Question

6,923,201,572→ This is the number of how many people exist on planet earth, according to the US Census Bureau. It is estimated that this number increases by 212,035 every day. When this fact ponders through my mind, it humbles me and somehow grounds me. We are so small compared to this world we live in. So what if we no longer existed on this planet? How would this change the greater of mankind or change the course of the world? This may sound pessimist and down right harsh but it doesn’t change at all. The world will not cease to exist and things will go on as they always have been. Family and friends will go through episodes of grief and despair and then what? The world will not suddenly pause, for after your departure it will go on as it always does.
So this leaves me with a question humans have not yet been able to find the answer to and may not ever find the answer to. What is our purpose on this planet? Should we even question what our purpose is? If not, then what is the purpose of the science, enlightenment and a curious mind that has lead us to discover so much about our planet? This may seem like such an accomplishment, but in fact we know nothing. You see, if we knew something about life and the world we live in, then how come there is so much hunger in the world? How come we have not ended world hunger when food should be a simple necessity and not a luxury?  Why is it so important to race through life and hang on to superficial and materialistic things? We all try so hard to hold on to what we want rather than what we need. We all want a bigger house, a nicer car, more money, the latest phone or gadget, and then even more money. Why? Are we going to take all these things with us when we die? Why have all these things come to define us and have been molded into becoming an extension of who we are today? These days we have become too attached to things that only give us temporary pleasure and happiness. A world in which happiness is marked by material gain is certainly a world I wish I do not live in, but this is a reality. Sometimes I wish I could have lived before or far after this time….
During this time, I create my own little world. A world in which people no longer feel the urge to have excessive things and are satisfied with what they need. What more do we need than shelter, love, food, clothes and water; the bare necessities? Nothing. The problem with our society today is that our wants have well exceeded our needs to an illustrious degree. How can we ever be content or satisfied with what we have if we keep asking for more? What kind of life is this? When you think of the population of the world and how minute we are in comparison to it, think of how you can make a difference that will be instead of insignificant or little, be huge.
My insignificance in this world pushes me harder to want to become something of a much higher caliber. I want to use what I know to become something that will make a difference in somebody’s life. I want to leave something to remember, so people won’t forget that I was here on this planet. I want to show the people I love I care about them and remind them of this each and everyday. This is what is important. Being a small person, a humbled person, but making a big difference. I want to leave my footprints on the sands time and know that I have made a difference in somebody’s life. That is how the world will know I was here. Well maybe not the world, but at least the people who matter to me the most. This is my purpose in life and what leaves me satisfied. This is how the world will know you were here and you existed.

My Eyes

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They don’t understand how I think.
Dare to look a bit deeper.
My appearance may fool them.
I put on a smile,
I laugh at their thoughtless jokes,
I put on my mask that surely fools the world.
But not you.
Dressed to impress,
Perfection from head to toe.
Superficial some people might think.
No complexity,
No intelligence,
No soul,
No potential,
No depth,
Empty,
Plain.
Living life day by day they say,
No thoughts pondering about the future.
Little do they know that it echoes within me,
A solid whisper.
But you know something others don’t know.
That this is a façade,
A mask I put up so no one can enter.
I’m too complicated for words so I stand silent to their judgment,
But you know the truth.
Deep in my eyes,
You search and you know.
The depth and the power of my soul.
I’m no ordinary person.
You know this,
Only by searching within me.
When my eyes gaze into yours,
You see through the depth of my soul.
There is no where left to hide,
You see me through my eyes.

Seeking Peace

Striving for the best
Wanting things I never thought possible
The pain is too deep to explain
A city that lies in ruins
Tragic but true
So beautiful a city with scars so deep
So deep I can barely speak
We hope for the best, but somehow expect the worst
A city so small yet so divided
Peace is what we seek
However, it is too far to be reached
We want what we can’t have
Striving for the best
We watch and weep for a city that is scarred but still so beautiful
From the cedar trees to the beach
Why is peace so hard to reach?

Life’s Long Love Road

Holding on is hard…
Understatement; it’s heart wrenching
Empty promises are made that bring along false hope
Hearts are broken and the words, “We’ll always stay in touch” echo and pierce through my mind
No one ever stays in touch. It’s just what we say to lessen the pain of going different ways
Plans are made and we take separate paths
That’s how the game of life is played
I dream and hope though your memory will not fade
Holding on is hard…
Letting go is easy
I let go and I’m ready to move on
Still remain the memories
Sorrows and despair are filled deep within me
My heart can’t endure much more
Fragile and sensitive it can’t feel pain anymore
Darkness is what it feels like
As the song goes…
A “total eclipse of the heart”
An endless road only leading me onto the wrong way
A path I have paved myself and traveled much too long…
It’s blurry and I can’t seem to find where I am
Are things a reality or an appearance?
An illusion of the mind? Or perhaps it’s déjà vu?
It’s been going on much too long, yet I still hold on
Soon I will find where I’m going
Why am I traveling down this road again?
Only a crazy person travels the wrong way and expects it will soon be the right way!
Thoughts ponder through my mind…
Madwoman on the loose
I want to turn around and forget it all
Forgive you for all your mistakes
But memories are too vivid
Feelings too strong
Remembering my tears, confusion, humiliation, pain, and time lost and time wasted…
Times when I threw my pride away for a moment in your arms…
My utopia
Nothing could go wrong or so I thought
Mapping out every move, word, and hidden signs
Maybe things fabricated in my mind
Over analyzing to the point of danger
This can’t be in my favor
Letting go can be hard for some people, but hanging on gives me hope
Hope of future plans only the mind can cite
Should I act now and fight?
Fight for a person who begs me to leave their site?
Words have been said and fights have been fought with all might
It’s draining…
Understatement; it absorbs any of the sanity I struggled to keep
After all, society has groomed me to act sanely
It’s exhausting…
Yet another understatement; My body aches from head to toe
You say you care and go
Confusion is keeping me any from lucidity
Giving my all, my deepest and darkest secret
How did I know you would keep it?
To love is hard
To hold on to hate is even harder
Then why love and why hate?
All these emotions I would much rather escape
Emotions are too strong
I need to break free…Not for you or for anyone
Just for me
Like an everlasting sad love song
Playing in my mind repeatedly,
Your memory is there.
Searching for the truth I don’t care to find
The truth I know somehow will leave me blind instead of helping me find the light
The light that shows me how you truly feel
Let me believe what I want
Through our eyes everything is different
Will you be back?
I doubt.
What I felt when you left can’t be defined
And only breaks my heart more with time
This is my life’s love journey
The long road leading me farther, yet closer to the wrong path.

Phenomenal Woman

This is an empowering poem for all women all over the world 
because each woman is phenomenal in her own way.

Phenomenal Woman By Maya Angelou


Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I'm not cute or built to suit a fashion model's size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I'm telling lies.
I say,
It's in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It's the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can't touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can't see.
I say,
It's in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I'm a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Now you understand
Just why my head's not bowed.
I don't shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It's in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
'Cause I'm a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That's me.

Move Your Body!

Beyonce is not only known all around the world for her amazing vocal talents, perfected dance moves, or natural acting skills. She is also a role model for children all over the world.

It is very rare in the entertainment industry to find such a combination.  Beyonce, along with the first Lady, Michelle Obama, started a “Lets Move” campaign to encourage the youth to take care of their bodies and overall well-being. With the extreme amount of obesity among children in the U.S., this campaign motivates the youth to take charge of their own bodies and develop healthier lifestyles. This campaign is a part of the NABEF (National Association Broadcast Education Foundation). The NABEF is a non-profit organization dedicated to reinforcing the future of broadcasting through a commitment to education, diversity and community service. For more about this visit their website at: http://www.nabef.org/

Beyonce makes her own music video clip by taking her song “Get Me Bodied” and changing it to “Move Your Body” that is a song children all over the world can sing, dance, and move along to. She shows off her dance moves  for the kids this time, filming a music video/public service announcement as part of a campaign against childhood obesity. Check out her video!

A Tear and a Smile

There is always a thin line between the different emotions we have within us. In life, in order to be happy, we must first know how it feels to be sad because that is how we truly know how to experience any kind of happiness or self-fulfillment. A tear can lead to a smile because happiness and sorrow come hand in hand.  Our sorrows in some way purify us and give us understanding of the world we live in.

This is one of my favorite parts from the book called ”a Tear and a Smile” by Khalil Gibran:

I would not exchange the sorrows of my heart
For the joys of the multitude.
And I would not have the tears that sadness makes
To flow from my every part turn into laughter.

I would that my life remain a tear and a smile.

A tear to purify my heart and give me understanding
Of life’s secrets and hidden things.
A smile to draw me nigh to the sons of my kind and
To be a symbol of my glorification of the gods.

A tear to unite me with those of broken heart;
A smile to be a sign of my joy in existence.

I would rather that I died in yearning and longing than that I live Weary and despairing.

I want the hunger for love and beauty to be in the
Depths of my spirit, for I have seen those who are
Satisfied the most wretched of people.
I have heard the sigh of those in yearning and Longing, and it is sweeter than the sweetest melody.

With evening’s coming the flower folds her petals
And sleeps, embracingher longing.
At morning’s approach she opens her lips to meet
The sun’s kiss.

The life of a flower is longing and fulfilment.
A tear and a smile.

The waters of the sea become vapor and rise and come
Together and area cloud.

And the cloud floats above the hills and valleys
Until it meets the gentle breeze, then falls weeping
To the fields and joins with brooks and rivers to Return to the sea, its home.

The life of clouds is a parting and a meeting.
A tear and a smile.

And so does the spirit become separated from
The greater spirit to move in the world of matter
And pass as a cloud over the mountain of sorrow
And the plains of joy to meet the breeze of death
And return whence it came.

The Road Not Taken

Every now and then we are faced with crossroads in our lives. We are left still, not knowing which path to take or which path is the right path. Life can do that to you. Just taking the initiative to make that decision and choosing a path to take is half the battle. In the end, life will take you where ever you choose to go. Sometimes, a little inspiration can help you along the way.

Maybe Robert Frost is right. Maybe if you take the road less traveled, that will make all the difference…

The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.