The theme of the UN’s World Humanitarian Day this year was “I Was Here.” This campaign was a brilliant idea to get people from all around the world involved in random acts of kindness, no matter how big or small. This campaign really reminded me that no matter who you are in this world, you can always make a difference. We are all one entity and need to stand together in times of need. My hope is that this idea is always instilled in everyone’s minds…We can all make a difference.
Beyonce was one of the main supporters of this cause and performed a song from her album “4” called, “I Was Here,” at the UN General Assembly in New York. The video was posted on World Humanitarian Day: http://www.whd-iwashere.org/
It is often said that a man has a lot of responsibilities in his lifetime. In many societies, especially in Middle Eastern ones, a young boy is groomed at a very early age to be a man and not to show any emotions that may seem a bit too “feminine”. Unfortunately, emotions, positive or negative, are frowned upon and this lack of showing emotion grows with them into the future. The boy is someday going to be the man of the house, taking charge of the household and being the breadwinner of the family. Yes, the life of a man is far from easy. But do we stress too much about how hard it is to be a guy in our society and neglect how difficult it can be to be a girl? A girl’s life is also far from simplistic. Sometimes their life is even planned out from beginning to end, from which schools they will go to, to which man they should marry. Even the most educated girl can have no say about whom she wants to marry unless she speaks out and takes a stand. Families tend to forget that they are not the ones getting married. Marriages end up being a contract of financial security rather than of love. What I’m trying to say is that everyone’s life is somehow misguided by outside influences. Sometimes I think we do not stress enough on the life of a girl and the hardships she goes through on a daily basis. My point is in our lives everyone, especially girls, are somehow always misguided by influences such as family, friends, and most significantly the media.
Society has transformed and with each day that passes, the media has stood as a platform for our thoughts, actions, and perceptions of what is real. Psychological and emotional disorders are further being catalyzed by the media’s ideas of how a person’s life should be. These ideas penetrate through a person’s mind and slowly shape their actions unconsciously.
TV shows, soap operas, magazines, music, etc., all seem to be harmless forms of entertainment for young girls all over the world. A lot of young girls these days are watching shows such as Gossip Girl, Desperate Housewives, Sex in the City and the list goes on. It is indeed entertaining to spend leisure time watching these television shows, but to relate them to real life is beyond understandable and downright insane. The characters in these shows are highly glamorized and live seemingly perfect lives with the toughest obstacle being which social event to attend or whom they should date. I’m not saying it’s not fun and entertaining to watch such shows, but to watch them and base them on real life is when they become detrimental.
The magazine Cosmopolitan claims to help women be more well rounded and be the best they can be in every aspect of their lives. More specifically, the magazine targets “fun fearless women who want to be the best they can be in every area of their lives.” Fair enough, but if only it actually sets out to do what it claims. Is it to empower women or is it for women to further feel objectified?
Lets take a look at just a few of the magazine covers:
Sex, sex and more sex!!
Below is a link to one of the feature videos posted on Cosmo’s website:
Are these the real issues on girl’s minds? Every issue has something to do with sex! The magazines clearly are advocating and encouraging promiscuity and do not depict sex as something that is special between two people who love each other. How does this educate a girl in the right way? Girls all over the world are reading Cosmo and actually follow and believe what is being said. The writers do not base any of their articles on facts. In some issues they try to help girls feel better in their own skin by giving tips on fashion and what suits their body types the most. Then why when I look through the magazines are there no pictures of real women? Why do they all seem so flawless? If the magazine is geared towards girls who are trying to better themselves then how come all the girls in the magazine are perfect? Are they telling girls that if they read the magazine they will look like the girls in the magazines or that they should live up to these unrealistic, air-brushed expectations? How is this setting up women to be “fun and fearless?” Well, all it really does is set them up to be sex objects who spend all of their time trying to have perfect skin, hair, and bodies.
The real issues that should be talked about more are the real issues young girls and women are going through such as obstacles about body and self image, eating disorders, unrealistic expectations set for themselves, depression, family problems, inner conflicts and outside pressures. Maybe if we shed more light on these things, young women will be better-balanced and lead healthier lives. These young girls need a reality check and also need to learn that the world is not all about outer appearances, but rather inner beauty, success, family, friends, and above all, personal happiness.
A girl’s life is not simple because she not only has to deal with magazines, and society telling her everyday how the ideal life for her and other girls should be, but at the same time, other outside factors such as family and friends echo and replay through her mind. It is hard to disappoint oneself but it is also hard to disappoint others. Family is most people’s foundation and what we do reflects on them. We want to lead the right life and do what makes others around us happy. We are after all social beings who crave approval from people close to us and as well as a successful life. But sometimes families who are very close-knit tend to add to the pressures society poses on us. They ultimately want what’s best for us, but forget that we should be the one’s deciding the path of our lives. We ask ourselves, how do we do what we want without disappointing others? Well, this is not an answer Cosmopolitan can answer, but compromising is always a good method to use.
In conclusion, no one’s life is easy especially because of outside pressures and influences. Sometimes, though, the life of a girl can be more complicated than what meets the eye. Hopefully, young girls and women can be able to break through these obstacles by focusing on what they believe is important in their lives and working from there. Setting a goal, surrounding herself by the right people who love her, and being fearless enough to face real challenges in life is a great beginning. The challenges I’m talking about aren’t the ones Cosmopolitan, Gossip Girl and Sex in the City have the answers to. Slowly but steadily, maybe this misguided girl can find her true path onto self-discovery.
Beyonce is not only known all around the world for her amazing vocal talents, perfected dance moves, or natural acting skills. She is also a role model for children all over the world.
It is very rare in the entertainment industry to find such a combination. Beyonce, along with the first Lady, Michelle Obama, started a “Lets Move” campaign to encourage the youth to take care of their bodies and overall well-being. With the extreme amount of obesity among children in the U.S., this campaign motivates the youth to take charge of their own bodies and develop healthier lifestyles. This campaign is a part of the NABEF (National Association Broadcast Education Foundation). The NABEF is a non-profit organization dedicated to reinforcing the future of broadcasting through a commitment to education, diversity and community service. For more about this visit their website at: http://www.nabef.org/
Beyonce makes her own music video clip by taking her song “Get Me Bodied” and changing it to “Move Your Body” that is a song children all over the world can sing, dance, and move along to. She shows off her dance moves for the kids this time, filming a music video/public service announcement as part of a campaign against childhood obesity. Check out her video!
People are judged everyday, whether by the way they look, their religion, nationality, or by the certain qualities they possess. The media has been the number one advocate in influencing our thoughts and has created us to view Arab ethnicity in a negative light. When stereotyping, we no longer view a person as an individual, but rather as the group he or she belongs to. Sometimes we never stop to think that the generalizations we have made about these people may be wrong. We always make assumptions about people based on what history or generations have perceived to be true. As Heilbroner states in “Don’t Let Stereotypes Warp Your Judgments, “we tend to create stereotypes because it helps us make sense out a highly confusing world.” At times, we are so absorbed in our own culture and traditions that we become ethnocentric and see things only the way we have accepted them to be. We must break through these misconceptions and learn to accept others ways of life and thinking. In some ways, stereotyping can be a good thing as long as others do not instill them in their minds and remain static about them. Stereotypical thinking is an unjust way to judge someone given that it does not represent the real personality of a person. We come to think whether stereotypes can play a positive role and the social consequences that may emerge due to this stereotype.
According to the article, The Myth of the Latin Woman: I Just Met a Girl Named Maria, Cofer explains the many cultural clashes she had gone through, due to the stereotypes many people have of the Latina woman. For example, she states that Latina women are seen as dressing too flashy and they tend to show more of their body and curves. Americans make the generalization that these women dress in a vulgar way, but the Latino society accepts it as being a normal way for women to dress. She emphasizes that even if someone has lived in a country he or she is not native to his or her whole life, the speculations people make about him or her will never fade away. This is mainly because they have grown with time and people have been accustomed to believe such things. It is often hard to eliminate things that have grown from generation to generation. In addition to the many stereotypes made of Latinas, stereotypes have been made about Arabs, and these speculations have seemed to grow throughout time. Some articles centered on Arabs are very biased and are based on personal experience alone. In other words, statistically, they may be very wrong. The article “The Arab World,” written by Edward T. Hall, poses a very biased, generalized image of Arabs. It aims at attacking Arabs, almost degrading them as human beings. It seems as though Arabs were some kind of species up for observations. The article claims that Arabs have no sense of personal space. Hall states, “ Arabs are unable to formulate specific rules for their informal behavior patterns.” (122) He also states, “pushing and shoving is characteristic of Middle Eastern culture.” (118) He over-generalized the behaviors of Arabs most probably based on a few interactions he had with them. Sometimes Arabs tend be very friendly, warm and humble that people place a wrong image about them and are a bit taken back. We like to show emotion, whereas in many other cultures it is taught to stay calm and reserved. Stereotyping is just based on a few misunderstandings that people take to be true about a whole society, without accepting the fact that we are all different individuals.
All Arabs are named Mohamed, are rich in oil, are terrorists, and are religious extremists. These are just a few of the stereotypical images portrayed of Arabs. Recently, Arabs have been the center of many stereotypical images. These generalizations about Arabs were certainly sparked after 9-11. According to the article “Arabs and the Media,” by Narmeen El-Farra, (Journal of Media Psychology, Spring 1996) Arabs are seen as terrorists due to how the media presents them. Keywords such as, terrorists and fanatics are used to describe Arabs everyday on some news channels. El-Farra states that even with current events such as the Palestinian Arab-Israeli conflict, American media portrays a distorted image between who the victim and who the aggressor really is. These misconceptions sparked by the media have created major tensions between Arab-Americans nationwide, who are constantly being judged by the images the media creates of their culture. In many movies, Arabs are perceived as violent and religious fanatics. For instance, in the critically acclaimed movie, Syriana, Arabs are looked at as terrorists and ruthless-evil people who are somehow inferior to mankind. I think this is mainly due to the lack of knowledge or research people have acquired that leads them to a distorted image of Middle Easterns.
Stereotyping creates a big barrier between two cultures both socially and mentally. An entire religion or ethnicity cannot be judged solely based on one person’s actions. During the aftermath of 9/11, I was living in the states. Many Arab-Americans in the area I lived in were discriminated against. Even those who looked like Arabs were physically and verbally abused and racial slurs were used. Mosques were vandalized based on the actions of a few extremists. A large Arab-American newspaper in the United States received threatening voice mail messages from those who just wanted to take it out on individuals who had no prior knowledge of the attacks. Most people were angry and scared but that does not justify their actions against innocent people. Most of those I knew and interacted with knew of my Arab ethnicity and would ask me questions that would allow me to feel belittled. It is unjust and unfair that they perceive the actions of those who acted immorally and straight away look at other Arabs in a judgmental way. They are approaching me for answers that I do not have. Arabs feel that they need to prevent the ignorant acts of others and are forced to take actions to protect those that may be vulnerable to such acts. For instance, the weeks after 9-11 hundreds of Saudi students studying in the United States were given the option to either continue the semester or return to their homeland. This would not have occurred if stereotypical incidences were not happening all across the United States. Even the most educated people today generalize about others and compare their culture to others, instead of learning and taking interest in other people’s way of living and thinking. Most people are too focused on reading things that are based on stereotypical thinking rather than looking for the inconsistencies of these stereotypical images. Generalizations are exclusively made to make groups of people feel mediocre. Most people create these stereotypes due to their lack of communication with other groups of people and their misconceptions. This only leads to lack of knowledge and great ignorance.
From a psychological point of view, stereotyping a person can be very detrimental and lead people to feel inferior. Before actually getting to know a person these days, we place labels on them based on our prior knowledge, regardless of whether they are consistent or not. We all have positive attributes to give to the world and cannot be judged based on how a group of people, who share the same ethnicity that we do, act. In other words, just because a person or group of people from a certain ethnic background did something wrong, does not give anyone the right to prejudge a certain individual based on that assumption. In this way, we are not giving the person the benefit of the doubt. Once we get to know a person, we can later make our assumptions about them based on factual evidence, rather than just on hearsay.
In the “Myth of the Latin Woman,” Cofer states that stereotyping can be a good thing if one wants to think about it in a positive way. As she claims, it can be a way to win a person’s ‘minute of attention.’ (107) It can also make way for people to erase their misconceptions by trying to learn more about others cultures. All in all, stereotyping can be very misleading and harming, which make people feel inferior and often isolated. People that are stereotyped should not just play the victim role, but create proactive ways to change stereotypes made of them. In other words, they need to take the initiative to create a new image of themselves. People who are subjected to stereotypes should stand up for their right to be treated equally, and should strive to change the image that has been to unfairly bound upon them. Only then will they be taken seriously, and acknowledged for who they really are, and not what society or the media have made them out to be.
Kofi Annan once stated in an Istanbul Address, “We need to get away from stereotypes, generalizations and preconceptions, and take care not to let crimes committed by individuals or small groups dictate our image of an entire people, an entire region, or an entire religion.” (105) I strongly believe that this very profound quote sums up the dangers and misconceptions of stereotypical thinking. There will always be tensions between the east and west, but by creating stereotypes, we only make them worse. We must all open our eyes to other cultures, ethnicities, religions and be respectful of others ways of thinking, even if it does not coincide with ours. We must not let the media, which can be very biased at times, take control of our mind and thoughts. Instead the media and other associations should raise awareness to show our future generations not to base stereotypical portrayal on anyone. Instead, one should take the initiative to get to know a person for who he or she really is. If we do not do this, then we are leaving a lot of room for hatred, anger and barriers will remain. In the end, we are unique individuals with flaws. We must not base all of our thinking on myths or traditions. If we allow ourselves to be consumed by these stereotypes, which are manifested in our minds and cause harm to others, we will never live in a just society.
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Most advertisements are subtle in the way they deliver messages to their audiences, but when one takes a step back, he/she can identify what these hidden messages are. Every kind of media outlet is trying to depict a certain message and uses very clever techniques to entice their audiences. Most of the advertisements we see have distinct gender roles of a man and a woman. Masculinity and the true meaning of what a man’s role in society should be are one of the main themes advertisers use to send their message to a national audience.
Masculinity in the Arab world is sometimes used to control a women’s sexuality and that’s where the whole concept of patriarchy fits in. The “traditional” Arab man is strong, confident, and controlling. He is always sure of himself and does not take no for an answer. This does however create power dynamics and connectivity among the opposite sex.
Everywhere we look, we can find ways gender roles have been incorporated into our daily lives, especially through commercials and billboards.
The commercial that caught my attention the most is the Snickers advertisement produced in Egypt that was aired on MBC. The title of this commercial is Enta mish enta wenta ga3an, which means you are not yourself when you are hungry.Honestly, I believe it is the most sexist commercial I have yet to see. The theme I got from the commercial is “The best in a woman is a man”. The Snickers advertisement starts out with three people trying to push a car in order to make it run. It seems as if the car stopped in the middle of the road. There are three people trying to make the car start, two males and one “female”. The “female”, who is a famous Egyptian actress, constantly complains about how tired she is and doesn’t have the strength to push the car any further. Well, the “woman” is actually a man called “Karim,” but only after “he” eats the snickers did “he” essentially becomes a man. Before “Karim” eats the snickers bar, he is complaining also about how hot it is and is characteristic of what the media tries to depict of a woman: irritable, nagging all the time and physically weak. The two other men label him as a “drama queen”. The “real” men are pushing the car are not complaining at all. So how do they portray a man who hasn’t had a snickers bar? : As a woman. A “real” man should not nag or show any kind of emotion. He just has to get the job done. It is not a “woman’s” job to push a car, but rather the “man’s” job. This further adds the gender roles of a man and woman. The person in the car is a woman who is telling the men to hurry up. “Karim” is being a “drama queen”, which is what a female should be and not a man. He turns into a man only after he has a Snickers bar. Overall, at an anthropological standpoint, the commercial shows the functional structure of females in relation to males and vice versa as well as the power dynamics and connectivity of each in regards to one another.
There is another Snickers commercial similar to the one above, but is targeted towards a Western audience. In the commercial is the famous American actress, Betty White. The commercial was aired during the 2010 Super Bowl.
Other than the Snickers commercial, there are several billboard and magazine ads that further emphasize the role of a man in society. Women are often portrayed as sex objects and that can be noted by the little amount of clothing they are wearing and the way they are posing in the ads in comparison to the men. The man is usually subtler maybe to depict his role in society as effortless in everything he does. He does not have to try too hard to be sexy. He just has to have a certain tough, rugged look and wear something stylish, whereas the girl has to make an extra effort to be shown and most likely by showing of her body, which is the easiest technique used by advertisers to grab attention. The ways these advertisers construct their ads are very well thought out. In most of the ads I have seen, the man seems to be the more dominating factor. For example, the position of the woman is always under the man. This depicts the power dynamic between the two genders. The man is more powerful and therefore is above the woman.
Social networking has sky rocketed whether we are talking about Facebook or Twitter. It has created a new age among Internet users and has connected people from all over the world. It has emerged to the point that individuals are urged to even create their own social networks by using sites such as Ning. Our culture has shifted into this electronic age that may be pulling people apart rather than bringing them together and erasing any sense of privacy in an individual’s life if misused.
This new generation of Internet users spend countless hours per day using social networking sites which can be harmful in the future for real connections with people as opposed to the virtual connections made via these social networks. Yes, these social networks are beneficial in many ways, but spending hours and hours per day using them can be harmful to a person’s physical as well as mental health. After all, too much of anything cannot be good.
I have posted a short Youtube documentary about how social networking has affected our society in the 21st century.
Society is always changing. In today’s society, we have the need to conform. It is very hard to find your own identity when you are always trying to be someone else. After all, being unique in a conformist society can be quite difficult.
Being a young girl and then turning into a young woman is not simple. Girls go through day-to-day obstacles that make them doubt themselves all the time. The media is the biggest manipulator. Every day they tell young girls how to eat, what to eat, how to dress, what weight they should be, what is cool and what is not, etc.
So what can we do to stop this problem? Well, the first step is to allow young girls to free themselves from what the media tries to depict as true and “real.” Girls need to be aware that the models they see in magazines are far from real and are airbrushed to the maximum. Not only are their faces airbrushed but so are their bodies. They are transformed into complete perfection. The media tries its best to entice people into thinking how society should be rather than what society really is.
Throughout my adolescent years, I always felt insecure about myself. Media and society did not make this easier. Watching T.V., I always tried to emulate celebrities. They seemed like pure perfection. In other words, everything about them seemed to be unattainable; whether it was the way they dressed, their body, or their “natural” charisma. What intrigued me the most about them is that they had something that I thought I could never have. They had an “unattainable” beauty. I tried so hard for years to live up to these expectations. I had no idea what the media was about. The more people are made to feel insecure about themselves, the more people feel the need to consume. Consumption = making money → the media wins. It is a very simple equation. The media’s goal is to send a common message to the world to entertain not to inform.
What some people do not understand is that we are all unique pieces of art. A piece of art can never be replicated to look exactly alike. We must embrace this fact by embracing our differences. We all have a common cause and want the same things in life: happiness, the ideal job, to find love, and have a good social life. But what should we do in order to reach our goals? This is where the six elements of self-fulfillment come in. These elements are: 1) Self-awareness 2) Self-esteem 3) Loving ourselves and then loving others 4) Censoring out elements of the media 5) Having a goal and/or a realistic dream 6) Taking action.
To me, self-awareness is the base from which we can achieve our goals. It is about understanding our capabilities and what we can accomplish. Self-esteem is something that has to be generated from within. A lot of people’s self-esteem is generated from other-esteem, which is very wrong. We must be happy with who we are and accept all of our flaws and look for the beauty of our imperfections. In order to love others we must first love ourselves. That falls under self-esteem. The media portrays an illusion of reality. Not all parts of the media are detrimental. It is important, however, to censor the parts that are. Examples of these parts are the media’s take on body image and what beauty is. A major part of getting what we want out of life is to have a plan or a goal. Most importantly, having realistic goals will prevent us from facing major disappointment. Once you know your goal, take action!